The War for Kindness: Building Empathy in a Fractured World

The War for Kindness: Building Empathy in a Fractured World

Non-fiction

Jamil Zaki

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The War for Kindness: Building Empathy in a Fractured World

At the forefront of empathy research, Dr. Jamil Zaki has made an important discovery: empathy is flexible.

Both scientists and non-scientists commonly argue that empathy is something that happens to you, sort of like an emotional knee-jerk reflex. Second, they believe it happens more to some people than others. This lines people up along a spectrum, with deep empaths on one end and psychopaths on the other. What’s more, wherever we are on that spectrum, we’re stuck there.

In The War for Kindness, Zaki lays out a very different view of how empathy works, one that breaks these two assumptions. Empathy is not a reflex; it’s a choice. We choose empathy (or apathy) constantly: when we read a tragic novel, or cross the street to avoid a homeless person, or ask a distraught friend what’s the matter. This view has crucial consequences: if empathy is less a trait (like height), and more a skill (like being good at word games), then we can improve at it. By choosing it more often, we can flex our capabilities and grow more empathic over time. We can also “tune” empathy, ramping it up in situations where it will help and turning it down when it might backfire.

Zaki takes us from the world of doctors who train medical students to empathise better to social workers who help each other survive empathising too much. From police trainers who help cadets avoid becoming violent cops to political advocates who ask white Americans to literally walk a (dusty) mile in Mexican immigrants’ shoes. This book will give you a deepened understanding of how empathy works, how to control it and how to become the type of empathiser you want to be.

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ISBN:

9781472139337

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